They say that you have to compromise in life, but whoever “they” are, I’m sure that they’re not with you when you have to make some tough choices. And if you observe the state of many in our society, adherence to the collective consciousness on this issue of compromise does not usually bring peace, love and happiness. Look carefully into the faces of the people that you meet, and listen to the stories they tell: you will soon find out that what is considered “compromise” for many people brings pathos and regret. Many people make choices that they think they have to make, but in the process violate some innate sense of decency and erode their soul’s integrity.How can we avoid these types of compromises in life?
1. Be aware that you always have a choice in life. Admittedly it is easy for me to state this in this blog post sitting at my computer. But I am dead serious. The thing that prevents us from seeing our choice in tough spots is fear, plain and simple.
2. Eradicate fear in your life. Here again, so easy to say but can be a process to achieve. But if there was ever anything worth the effort this is it. When you realize that there is nothing, and I mean absolutely nothing, to be afraid of, you gain an edge of freedom that is priceless.
3. Know what feels good to you. You are composed of so much more than just a mind; your body and spirit are constantly giving you signals to help guide you. Learn to listen to your body and spirit because these forces are on your side.
4. Understand the true nature of human beings. Don Miguel Ruiz nailed human nature in his book The Fifth Agreement: humans are predators. This may be shocking to some people, and this might be difficult to accept. But I strongly suggest that you at least consider the possibility. As you observe actual human behavior, and not how people characterize themselves or their behavior, isn’t it true? Once you can see the true nature of many people’s behavior, you can feel less pressure to succumb: they are only being predators!
5. Don’t stray too far from love. You are only responsible for your behavior, not others. If your behavior is centered in love as much as possible, there is so much less pressure or reason for you to compromise: you are already in the best state of consciousness, which is love. And if and when you are distracted from that state of love, get back to that consciousness as soon as you can.